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Part of being a skilled therapist is asking good, thought provoking questions. Today I have a few questions for you. How much time do you spend focusing on the things you do not like about yourself? How many of those things do you not like because other people told you to change them, or that they are a flaw? What do you think might happen if you embraced those characteristics and traits? How would your life change? What would you do with all that extra energy?
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It would be WONDERFUL if we could get all of the nutrition we need directly from our food. Unfortunately, this is simply not the case. Why?
Remember that bit about first impressions? We get an impression of person or a space in the blink of an eye. What would be the impression of your home from someone visiting your home for the first time? How would they feel approaching and then entering your home? Would they be stumbling over shoes, garbage, piles of mail and catalogs?
In feng shui, this area is known as the “Mouth of Chi” or primary portal for energy to enter your home. If you have clutter there it creates stagnant chi and attracts poor feng shui into your home, lessening your chances for....
Sometimes I wish I had a tape recorder that could record my client’s inner voice. If I played it back to them they would likely be horrified at how mean they are to themselves. These are some of the things we would hear: “You are so stupid, why did you do that?” “Every other mother is better than me; I am the worst mother ever.” “I can never do anything right.” “I am weak, I am broken, I am a burden to others.” “I am crazy.” “I need to get over myself.” “I can’t do that, I could never be successful.” “What they did is so much better than what I did.” “What is wrong with me?”
I find many of my clients struggling with the issue of control, specifically the anxiety that surrounds so many of us when we are not in control. Do you ever find yourself spending countless hours worrying and stressing over another person’s behavior, what people think of you, how a decision you want to make for yourself will be perceived by others, what may or may not happen tomorrow, what did or did not happen yesterday?
You are not alone. It is common, normal and something that you can change if this pattern is not bringing you happiness.
The key to optimal mental health is to begin to recognize when you are expending energy on things you cannot control (other people) and to shift that energy towards the things you can control (your health). This is the tricky part – You have to do this while honoring your feelings about the things you cannot control (see my post on validation for more info on this).
Here is a simple exercise to get you started. Think of it as bit of spring cleani.....